Its wedding day. My cousin is the groom in waiting. He soon is going to be the Husband and the girl (who used to be the chirpiest in the household and neighborhood) the wife. How big a step, I often wonder. From now on, kids are going to call them uncle & aunty. They need to start cooking their meals (if they don’t know how to cook, they need to start watching the cookery shows or call up respective moms for help), no more eating outs strictly. No more booze, no more smoke, no more night outs with friends, no more cricket. They will have to get a house, a car, get “settled” otherwise the aunties and uncles in the “families” are going to giggle and make fun of them next time they meet. They will have to make visits to respective in-law households for each festival/ occasion. Hmmm……. Sounds onerous now.
I always shuddered from this event of life. All of my friends did too, not long ago but, alas all of them are wedded now. Makes me think it’s not so big a task after all. A friend called this “a necessary evil”- nice usage. How big an irony? We embrace evil knowingly. Makes me think, its not new after all. Think of booze, smoke, bribes etc. etc. probably; marriage will top the list of evil-embracing.
But then, it’s important to have someone in your life. How long is one going to live alone? Yes there is mom, dad, sister, brother but then they are all wedded except for you. Probably, that unnerves everyone, you know some kind of effect- “everyone else is married, so I too should” - what do I call it- “ripple effect” or “follow the herd”. Then, of course there are the famous dialogues of our cinema –
1. “you will find love one day”- This must be the wackiest of all quotes. Give this to a manager and he will rip it apart saying there are no deadlines, bottomlines, toplines – “you are fired”.
2. “There’s someone waiting for you somewhere in the world”- yeah I am really interested to explore Russia for this but, apparently, my pockets aren’t deep enough and even if they are, am sure Russia has a decent male-female ratio unlike India for me to just barge in.
3. “whose going to continue your legacy?” – Well, if this is one important reason for marriage, then, only Bill Gates or Steve Jobs or Sachin have rights to marry.
Anyways, all the above sounds cynical, I know. I guess one day, I am going to join the race too. I will probably read this post of mine and wonder, how cynical I was.
I always shuddered from this event of life. All of my friends did too, not long ago but, alas all of them are wedded now. Makes me think it’s not so big a task after all. A friend called this “a necessary evil”- nice usage. How big an irony? We embrace evil knowingly. Makes me think, its not new after all. Think of booze, smoke, bribes etc. etc. probably; marriage will top the list of evil-embracing.
But then, it’s important to have someone in your life. How long is one going to live alone? Yes there is mom, dad, sister, brother but then they are all wedded except for you. Probably, that unnerves everyone, you know some kind of effect- “everyone else is married, so I too should” - what do I call it- “ripple effect” or “follow the herd”. Then, of course there are the famous dialogues of our cinema –
1. “you will find love one day”- This must be the wackiest of all quotes. Give this to a manager and he will rip it apart saying there are no deadlines, bottomlines, toplines – “you are fired”.
2. “There’s someone waiting for you somewhere in the world”- yeah I am really interested to explore Russia for this but, apparently, my pockets aren’t deep enough and even if they are, am sure Russia has a decent male-female ratio unlike India for me to just barge in.
3. “whose going to continue your legacy?” – Well, if this is one important reason for marriage, then, only Bill Gates or Steve Jobs or Sachin have rights to marry.
Anyways, all the above sounds cynical, I know. I guess one day, I am going to join the race too. I will probably read this post of mine and wonder, how cynical I was.
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Yeah.. it is one thing, we need but we think we don't :P :P
Those 3 points were hilarious!